Divorce (Talaaq)

• Q1 - My husband and I have been married for a few years and we have a child. His mother stays with us but the problem is that she is constantly meddling into our affairs. Although this is my house, she is constantly budding into my private life. What should I do? 

  A - Thank you for sharing and may Allah bless you and your family. We advise that you show patience and compassion. Try to see her as your own mother who at this moment does not have her own place to stay at which naturally brings about frustrations and sadness (especially from the side of one whom doesnt their own home!).
  
  As for your husband, we advise that he learns to strike a proper balance between his duties as a husband and a son. Compassion again is the key.
  
  Like in other cases similar to this, we advise that you visit your local Islamic center for Islamic counselling. Counselling is often helpful in resolving such matters.

  
  
  

  MoulanaOnline Aalim Team

• Q2 - My friend was forced to marry a man, but now she wants to get out of the marriage. At the moment, she is being "blackmailed" as she lives in his home. She does not have money and does not have a family to fall back on, can you or the community offer some help? 

  A - Thank you for being there as a friend to a sister in need. However, these things should be dealt with experts and Muslim counselor experienced in matters of Islam and relationships. If she can find an Islamic counselor, preferably a scholar, she may get more relevant and helpful answers

  
  
  

  MoulanaOnline Aalim Team

• Q3 - If a man says to his wife "I divorce you," does that count as a real divorce? 

  A - No that is not considered a divorce. Divorce has several conditions. You can read about the conditions in Islamic Law books and also read the following article: http://www.islamquest.net/en/archive/question/fa29299

  
  
  

  MoulanaOnline Aalim Team

• Q4 - I have been married to my relative since four years. We separated during the first year of our marriage as he was a negligent husband and did not fulfill any of his duties as a husband. He was always demanding money from me and my parents.My parents are not allowing me to seek divorce/khulla as they think it is a shameful act. They want me to re-unite with himIf I file a case for Khulla in the court of my city and khulla is granted by the judge without my husband being notified, will it be valid according to shariah ( if he is notified he will approach my parents and they will compel me to re unite with him which i do not wish to.)?? 

  A - Court divorces are not considered Islamic divorces and therefore if the divorce was not performed in Islamic matter they are not considered divorces.

  
  
  

  MoulanaOnline Aalim Team