Marriage

• Q1 - If a man has infertility problems and refuses to have a treatment for it, what is the ruling for his wife? Is the wife allowed to leave her husband or adopt a child w/o the husband's permission? 

  A - There are a few ways of looking at this:
  
  1. If he knew that he had infertility issues and hid them from you, then it is grounds for divorce.
  
  2. If he did not previously know that he was infertile, then it is not grounds for divorce.
  
  3. If, in addition to infertility, your husband also is sexually dysfunctional where he cannot have intercourse or have intimacy, then the rulings are a bit different. Whether he knew or not before the marriage that he was sexually dysfunctional makes it a grounds for divorce for you. However, if he informed you previously and you accepted the marriage anyways, then there are no grounds for divorce.
  
  4. As for adoption, the consent of both parties is needed regardless of the situations above.
  
  5. Finally, we advise that you and your partner seek Islamic marriage counselling to resolve your outstanding issues which may be available at a center near you.

  
  
  

  MoulanaOnline Aalim Team

• Q2 - My husband and I have been married for a few years and we have a child. His mother stays with us but the problem is that she is constantly meddling into our affairs. Although this is my house, she is constantly budding into my private life. What should I do? 

  A - Thank you for sharing and may Allah bless you and your family. We advise that you show patience and compassion. Try to see her as your own mother who at this moment does not have her own place to stay at which naturally brings about frustrations and sadness (especially from the side of one whom doesnt their own home!).
  
  As for your husband, we advise that he learns to strike a proper balance between his duties as a husband and a son. Compassion again is the key.
  
  Like in other cases similar to this, we advise that you visit your local Islamic center for Islamic counselling. Counselling is often helpful in resolving such matters.

  
  
  

  MoulanaOnline Aalim Team

• Q3 - I did temporary marriage with a girl that I intended to marry. I am doing nikah with her in August 2016. The mutah contract ends in December 2016. Is the nikah still valid? 

  A - Yes the contract will bevalid, but before you perform the nikah, you must forgive (give back) the remaining time of themuta. It is best if you have two witnesses and then make the intention by saying that you have given her back the remaining time of themuta.

  
  
  

  MoulanaOnline Aalim Team

• Q4 - Is it predestined by Allah whom I will marry? What if I meet that person but let that individual go? 

  A - Wa alaikum salam. May Allah bless you and your family. Marriage is a sacred union and Allah has decreed certain rights and guidelines to have a successful marriage. If we follow those then every marriage is a successful marriage. In addition it is not pre decided by Allah whom are going to marry. It is true Allah has knowledge over all our actions, but His knowledge does not create predestination because He knows what we will choose to do. All of our actions with tawakkul and faith will be successful actions that will get us to our goal of becoming closer to Allah.

  
  
  

  MoulanaOnline Aalim Team